Month: March 2019

Do You Really Know Your Own Life Story?

Hypnosis can help you take a whole new look at what you’re really about and who you really are!

Perhaps your Life Story is filled with disappointment and hard times, in which you are the victim? Or perhaps your story is one of a life filled with abundance?

Are you sure your ‘Life Story’, as you know it, is True?

We have been telling stories since prehistoric times! These stories help to explain, teach and improve our understanding of life. Of course, much of Our ‘Life Story’ is based on facts, stored in our memory, or from photograph albums or diaries. We can recall some of the ‘facts’, about family structure, names, places, relatives, jobs, and locations without difficulty, as these are important pieces of our own ‘Life Story’. And we may use Internet search tools to gather additional details of our family story to enhance and embellish our memory of our own story.

However, much of our ‘Life Story’ of events or people, is fabricated. We construct a story based on our ‘interpretation of our memories’ of people or events, based on what we think we remember and the emotional responses, we think we experienced. How often have you been with relatives and talked about a period of time, event or person, only to discover your view is very different than theirs. We all arrange our memories in a contextual envelope which may differ substantially for each person who was present.

When we tell ourselves, or others, our ‘Life Story’ we share the significant memories, at least those we are prepared to share, to explain who we are. Therefore, our memories are the basis for “Who We Are”, even if those memories are false or inaccurate.

Your story may include negative memories or events about yourself, perhaps emphasizing what a failure you were. These stories are going to drag you down and contribute to low self-esteem and feelings of unworthiness. Stories about past failures or inadequacies, may not be false memories, they may be memories based on upbringing. Perhaps you were constantly criticized, put-down and told you were a failure or stupid. Receiving this negative feedback, especially in childhood, will often create a negative ‘Life Story’ because that’s what was heard all the time. Effectively, the story we tell is someone else’s story, about ourself rather than our own story!

We believe the story, and hold ourselves back, due to lack confidence, suffer from low self-esteem, depression, negativity and do not believe that good outcome will ever come, so there is no point in trying.

The cycle of negativity continues, and the associated feelings confirm the negative truths, which becomes more and more ingrained into who we are.

There is good news, however, as no matter what happened in your life, no matter how sad and depressing your story is, you have the power to change your story. You can escape from the negative storyline which controls you.

You can re-write your story into one that emphasizes your good traits and abilities and includes the good feelings and love that can free you from negativity.

Through Hypnosis, we can create a more positive life story which will help you to escape from the limiting beliefs of an overly negative Storyline.

During this process you will experience profound physical relaxation and your brain will become quiet and stop racing with random thoughts.

You will achieve a sense of control and experience the positive emotions of self-respect, self-confidence and self-esteem.

  • You will be able to trigger your subconscious mind, to reveal details not remembered for years
  • You will be able to re-learn facts related to your personal history
  • You will be able to subjectively recall events and better understand what happened
  • You will be able to recall positive memories, on which to build your new story
  • You will be able to be have a more balanced view, of your own role, in past events
  • You will begin to feel much more hopeful and positive about your future

Join the Re-Write Your Life Story Group on Facebook and participate in a group discussion and sharing of ideas and learn ways to turn your Life Story into a success story!

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What is Self-esteem?

Self-esteem is a measure of your internal feelings about who you are and how you see yourself.

We generally categorize self-esteem as high or low, with high being the desired level.

A high level of self-esteem enables you to accept and love yourself, for who you are, while low self-esteem makes you doubt your abilities and creates negative thoughts and feedback.

We develop self-esteem during our childhood, mostly from interactions our parents.

If you were raised in a positive environment and received praise for your achievements, there is a good chance you have developed a positive outlook of yourself and have high self-esteem.

If you were raised in a negative, uncaring environment, you likely will not believe you have the positive qualities you think you should have and will experience low self-esteem.

As we grow older, we may allow these feelings to be influenced by our friends and peers, as we often allow the opinion of others to invade our own feelings.

If you do not allow the opinions of others to impact you negatively, you likely have high self-esteem. It is healthy to not block these negative opinions and not allow them to affect you, as ultimtely your self-esteem must come from within.

To determine if you have low or high self-esteem, ask yourself the following simple questions.

  • Do you like who you are?
  • Are you happy?
  • Can you look yourself in the eye in a mirror for a full minute?
  • Do you think you are a good person?

If you respond no to these questions, you likely have a low self-esteem and need to take action to improve it as soon as possible.

The first thing to do is to rid yourself of those doubts by accepting your faults and realizing that many, very successful people, also have the same issues as you. We all have flaws which we want to eliminate, so you must be willing to acknowledge them and give yourself permission to change.

This will result in improved self-esteem over a relatively short period of time. Be patient, remember it took your entire life, to get where you are … change takes patience, acceptance, and understanding before the new patterns can take hold.

It is also important to accept that you are different from everyone else. Your physical attributes are unique and define who you are. Just as we each have unique DNA or fingerprints, we are different and can never be an exact duplicate of anyone else.

Never compare yourself to anyone else, compete with yourself, not others.

If you discover you have low self-esteem, seek help from Hypnotherapists, Psychologists or other professionals, who are qualified to help you address the root cause of these negative beliefs.

If you wish to attempt a self-help technique, make a list in a journal or in a notepad of 50 things you like about yourself. Then each day, write down one good thing you did to enhance your own positive feelings about yourself. Over a period of three weeks, you will start to see a significantly more positive environment developing, as your self-esteem grows stronger.

Those who have high self-esteem, are much less likely to practice self-sabotage or say or do negative things to others. The positive outlook of life will generate optimistic feelings about the future. Your goals and dreams will start to seem more possible to achieve.

Manifesting your dreams with Vision Boards and repeating positive affirmations and dedicated actions will allow you to achieve anything you wish for in life. Once you achieve this level of self-esteem you will be well on your way to success!

It will be easier to deal with problems and to resist negative pressures from external sources once our self-esteem has been elevated.

It is very important to recognize that these influences are learned, we are not born with them, and what can be learned can be easily unlearned.

We must be open and willing for change to take place and change our daily routines to accomplish these goals.

The rewards will be beyond your wildest dreams as you start to feel the glow of happiness and joy in your life.

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Do You Suffer From “Imposter Syndrome”?

Perhaps you know someone who is a high-achiever who suffers from anxiety and doubts themselves; the truth is, almost all of us do at some time or another. 

You may recognize some of these symptoms of the “Imposter Syndrome” or “Imposter Phenomenon” — and likely have experienced some, if not all, of them at one time or another. 

If you have suffered from:

  • A lack of self-confidence
  • Doubts about your thoughts
  • Doubts about your abilities
  • Doubts about deserving your achievements and accomplishments
  • Negative self-talk
  • Feelings of inadequacy
  • Dwelling on past mistakes
  • Not feeling good enough

You have experiened imposter syndrome, that negative feedback loop that tells us we are not worthy or capable of success. 

These thoughts and feelings plague most people at some point in their life; including successful men and women of all ages, races, and orientations. 

This pervasive negativity can grow quickly, if you don’t get it under control, as soon as possible.

Imposter phenomenon is triggerted by from your subconcious mind and brings irratoinal fears, doubts and phobias to the concious mind where it festers and pulls you down. 

Recognize the signs, and take action before it can negatively impact your professional and personal life. 

These feelings can isolate you and can keep you from making connections with the leaders in your field and to continue growing your knowledge and skills. 

This isolation will destroy your relationship with those most important to your development, and can make you feel like a complete and total fraud.

Here are five points about “Imposter Syndrome” which may help you avoid negative self-talk:

  • Never Compare Yourself to Others
  • Treat Failing is an Opportunity to Learn
  • Realize that Success is Subjective
  • Accept That Fear is a Motivator 
  • Ambitious, High Achievers are Also Impacted

Many people suffer from negative thoughts, however you can learn to compartmentalize those thoughts which are making you doubt your abilities, achievements,and accomplishments. 

Always focus on the positives and celebrate the successes you have achieved.

If you have deep rooted irrational fears of phobias, these can often be eliminated through Hypnotherapy or Meditation sessions with a professional therapist. 

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